The Desires of a Parent

Parents come in all shapes, forms and fashions…

Parents, role models, and mentors have great aspirations for their children their children. They have great drive and ambition for those whom they cover and protect and share with. However, be mindful, because you cannot push a person in to some place they do not want to go. They must want to do it – child or adult for that matter. I believe it is vital to understand that even children have some idea about life and what they want out of life; even their way of coping with trouble and pain. Nonetheless, we seek to render our wisdom and guidance, but question – are they accepting our wisdom freely or are they secretly rebelling against our wisdom. I believe there is a better way. If our desire for our children to be better - to grow - to become their best selves, doing this in a healthy way would be the win-win situation. So, how can we make this a win-win situation?

Be aware that our children have feelings and their feelings matter. There is a difference between recognition/being aware and ignorance. Some of us operate out of ignorance not making ourselves present in the lives of our children as they know struggle and because we have been around the corner a few times should not support us in refusing to recognize our children’s obstacles. “The McDonald’s Story” My dad’s desire for me was to have but at that time my feelings mattered so he did not refute my emotions. The desires of a parent fuels the desires of a child. Be mindful of our desires that they do not overcast the feelings and emotions of our children; let’s allow them to feel and experience life in their way and stand beside them to guide them into safe and prosperous environments; call the their name and let them know they matter.